Saturday, September 15, 2012

Woman, you are doing it all wrong!

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Anonymous said...

Aside from the few usual stereotypes about women the rest is indisputable. The conclusion is perfect. Hope Saint Lucian women put all their subjectivity and sensitivity aside and objectively and open-mindedly follow the advice of the writer before venturing to read the article because as he seem to imply in his warning, the cap is designed for 'whomsoever' it fits. So it is worth viewing the writer's description of women approach to relationship with the opposite gender as 'custom-made' rather than universal. In other words; "who the cap fits let them wear it". I believe the writer has succeeded in identifying and establishing some locative point which denotes the balance between the accusations; 'men are dogs' and 'women are whimsies'.
(Credit: Mervyn Lionel)

September 15, 2012 at 6:51 PM
Brandy said...

I think this is a very good article, and the writer ws very objective is his analysis. Women are soemtimes the architects of what befalls them in a relationship; some of them are so "needy" that they are willing to be treated like trash, just because some man utters the three "magic" words - "I love you"
when in reality there is no love a all. What passes for love is at times a strong physical attraction - nothing else.
So Mr. writer, while I agree with your general concept of the contribution women make to how they are treated by their men, I ask the question.... what about the women who are faihful to their partners, who satisfy their physicl, emotional and material needs; who are so devoted tht they literally perceive these men as close to a deity,. don't the men hve a responsibility to treat them well? I ask again... do men have to beat up ontheir partners, or treat them like trash to feel they are men? Is this what makes a man a man? Men gow up, show some maturity, educate yourselves on how to behave in relationships, stop thinking of women as your submissive servants/slaves; try to be more humane in your treatment of your partners, and stop making them feel they are bound to accept your abusive (yes abusive - physical, mental, verbal, emotional) treatment, just because you 'help them out'
These are just some of the thoughts tht came to mind after reading the article; no one has to agree with me.

September 16, 2012 at 5:48 AM
Anonymous said...

Yes, the absence of a father can be very detrimental to a young girl. The father teaches his daughter what is acceptable behavior from a man and what she should not accept. If the father treats his partner and his daughter with respect, then the daughter learns what that looks like. With the absence of a father, many girls don't know they can demand respect and proper treatment from men.

Secondly, women (particularly young women) are often in worse financial situations than men (that is changing) and whether or not we agree with the practice many women hook up with men who can take care of them financially. If the woman is a parent, the likelihood of her staying with a partner simply for financial reasons is greater.

Things are not always what they seem. The woman who stays with the man who physically abuses her, may not know any better, that's what she's used to. The woman who stays with a man simply for financial reasons may not (or thinks she does not) have what it takes to stand on her own two feet. The woman who stays with the "Player" may need him to make her feel good about herself. Afterall, he's a player but she's his main squeeze! The women who mistakes good sex for love, may never have experienced love from anyone.

We all have lists for the people we want to be with. There is nothing wrong with that. I've found that these lists change with age, experience and wisdom. Women choose the men in their lives based on their needs, and they choose to leave, or remain with these men based on whether these needs are being met or the amount of self love that they have.

Men do the same. They choose the women in their lives based on their needs and they choose to treat the women well, or badly based on what the women will accept.

September 16, 2012 at 11:49 AM
Anonymous said...

I believe that society, culture or the environment in which the woman was brought up will play a significant role in her relations with men. In some societies what may be normal man/woman relationships might be shunned by others.

September 16, 2012 at 6:25 PM
Anonymous said...

Saint Lucia remains underdeveloped because our women see marriage as a career!

Most of our women cannot see or envision a life of independence or personal achievement with or without a male. I am not saying that there is anything wrong with having a male companion.

However, if all the focus in a woman's life is on being better in bed than rivals, real or imagined, in order to hold on to a mate, such a woman is trashing her life, her significance, her importance and her self-esteem. Period.

She is destined to become a legal prostitute or a real prostitute. The latter is just one of the many jabals, five for every male being the norm nowadays.

Just too many of our women, consider that all that a man wants from a woman is probably one of five sexual parts of her anatomy. Not her mind. Not her intelligence. Not her hobbies. Nothing else but just these parts.

That is why after sex, some of our women have absolutely nothing else that is attractive and are more than boring!

Therefore, as they age and lose their abilities, facial beauty or body shape, the men start to go elsewhere for fun.

Our men too, are partly responsible for this.

Their mothers do not show that they have any respect for themselves. Their economic and emotional dependence is so heavy on males that physical and verbal abuse is accepted from males as normal and quite acceptable.

The men dish out the abuse as part of the excuse to go to outside woman.

This docile and passive acceptance of both types of abuse by females is passed on to their female offspring for another round of acceptance of male abuse. That too is passed on to their male offspring as acceptable behaviour towards females.

Obviously, this vicious cycle of underdevelopment and under-performance of 51 percent of the population, craddled and nurtured in hostile domestic environment of verbal, physical and emotional abuse continues unabated.

September 17, 2012 at 10:40 AM
Anonymous said...

" Who the cap fit.....most women" ? These are not conducive universes to draw conclusions for such a complex topic.The article is intellectually immature,and reeks of rumshpo oratory.

September 17, 2012 at 3:39 PM
Anonymous said...

thats rumshop oratory.

September 17, 2012 at 3:40 PM
Anonymous said...

Saint Lucian women are mainly objects of routine sexual activity. They do not have hobbies nor do they engage in self-uplifting activities to fill their time when they are not in bed having sex, out partying, or doing plain housework.

They have empty lives other than routinely doing housework or having sex.

September 18, 2012 at 7:01 AM
Anonymous said...

The evolution of the black/colored man is incomplete. Whereever he in power,he is relentless in his efforts to suppress the value of Women in society; be it by political,economic,religious and emotional means.Look around the world!

September 18, 2012 at 9:51 AM
Anonymous said...

Some African cultural norms significantly raise the profile of their womenfolk.

This however is overshadowed by religion.

Whenever the IMPORTED influence of BOTH Christian and Moslem faiths are introduced, BOTH, especially the Moslem faith SUPPRESS the aspirations of women. The so-called Arab Spring is a cogent example.

The Moslem world today is in deep crisis because more than half of their populations are kept back, some even from the basics of a primary school level of education.

The goals of white slave masters during the period of the African slave trade and the West Indian planter class come to mind.

To evince some enlightenment, we in Saint Lucia would do well, to promote and develop ALL of our women folk, to participate fully in all aspects of our economic and cultural life.

It is high time to develop them fully and NOT retain them as some backward cultures around the world do, being merely objects for the fulfilment of the sexual desires of males, or as second class citizens.

Let them become full participants in ALL aspects of cultural, poltical and economic life, with no suppression or hidden agendas and institutional mechanisms to keep them in their place.

Mark you this, the evidence around the world is overwhelming.

The underdeveloped world, like those countries where the unemployed have swelled the ranks of the idle marching on their streets in recent days, is marked by minimal participation of women in the economy and culture other than as desired walking incubators for the production of MALE PROGENY or male children.

Mainland China with its one-child policy has a compelling and disturbing story to tell in this regard!

September 18, 2012 at 10:26 AM
Anonymous said...

This is the overdue conversation that we as a People should and must have. WE don't need more salacious drooling; our future is at stake, wake up!!

September 18, 2012 at 11:30 AM
Anonymous said...

Jason,I don't know what motivated you to write this article,but I'm being tempted to call you: a diaper wearing myopic troglodyte!

September 18, 2012 at 12:19 PM
Anonymous said...

Some people like that that one up there, cannot deal with the truth. Attack Jason.

Carry on! Blame the messenger!

September 18, 2012 at 3:16 PM

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